Eat the Elephant One Bite at a Time: Why Small Wins Beat Big Dreams You can quit tomorrow. But today, you can do this one small thing. And that’s all that matters. Navy SEALs during Hell Week I was watching a clip of Navy SEAL training. The theme was something I’d seen before. But it was a good reminder. “You can quit tomorrow.” That’s what the instructors tell the trainees during Hell Week. During the moments when the pain is unbearable, when the cold is soul-crushing, when every fiber of...
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The Biggest Mistake Leaders Make (And Why What Got You Here Will Hold You Back There) The skill that earned you the promotion is the exact skill that will undermine your leadership if you don’t evolve. What Got You Here Won't Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith There’s a pattern I’ve seen play out over and over again. On the jobsite. On the mat. In boardrooms. In businesses. A person gets promoted because they’re good. Really good. They know their craft. They produce results. They solve...
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If You Want to Go Far, Go Together—But Only If Everyone’s Pulling in the Same Direction The African proverb is right. But it’s missing a critical caveat that most leaders learn the hard way. You’ve heard the saying: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” It’s a great line. It’s true. And it’s incomplete. Because here’s what nobody tells you about going together: If everybody isn’t aligned with where you’re going, you won’t go fast and you won’t go far. You’ll...
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This Isn’t Happening TO You. It’s Happening FOR You. The moment you make this one shift in mindset, everything changes. I grew up small. Single mom. Two kids. Private school on a working-class budget because she believed education mattered enough to sacrifice for it. My father—a man broken by childhood trauma and from being a combat medic in the war, in a time when nobody talked about those things and there were even fewer resources to help—didn’t know how to carry the weight he was carrying....
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Why You’re Not Smarter Than a Bear (And What to Do About It) With over10,000 years of civilization behind us, we’re still losing to wildlife. Here’s why—and how to fix it. A park ranger was explaining to a group of tourists why it was so hard to design a better bear-proof trash can. Why building a bear-proof trashcan is so hard. “The problem,” he said, “is that there’s a serious overlap between the smartest bear and the dumbest person.” I laughed out loud when I heard that. And then I stopped...
5 days ago • 8 min read
You’re Not Burned Out. You’re Undisciplined. Exhaustion is often misdiagnosed. Drift feels like fatigue. I’ve been on the BJJ mat for almost 30 months. For the first two years, I went home after every class feeling destroyed. Exhausted. Battered. Sucking wind like I’d just run a marathon through a furnace. I told myself it was normal. That jiu-jitsu was supposed to feel this way. That getting crushed was part of the learning process. And in a way, it was. But I was wrong about why. I thought...
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The Puking Point: Why You Don’t Know What You’re Capable Of Most people never push hard enough to find out what their best actually is. I recently watched a video of teenagers training for ice hockey. Elite-level young men (and I think I saw a woman player also). The technology they were using was insane. Specialized drills. High-tech tracking. Precision coaching. But what really got me wasn’t the equipment. It was the skill. The speed. The hand-eye coordination. One kid in particular —...
7 days ago • 10 min read
Why Good Leaders Think, But Great Leaders Think About How They Think Metacognition is the skill nobody teaches you. And it’s the one that separates good leaders from great ones. There’s a difference between a good leader and a great one. And it’s not what most people think. It’s not intelligence. It’s not charisma. It’s not experience. It’s metacognition. Read deeply from good books and reflect on what you read The ability to think about how you think. To observe your own mental processes. To...
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The Skills That Multiply Everything Else Why the best leaders don't just collect skills—they master the skills that make every other skill better. I was watching Alex Hormozi the other day talking about something that stopped me cold. Meta-skills. Not skills like carpentry, coding, sales, or marketing. Not even leadership skills like delegation or decision-making. Meta-skills—the skills that make acquiring and using every other skill easier, faster, and better. He mentioned things like:...
9 days ago • 9 min read