Know What You Want,
Why You Want It,
and How You’re Going to Get It

The 3 Answers That Separate Warriors from Wannabes

A Young Man Without a Map

When I was 25, I had no idea what I wanted.

I was swinging a hammer on a construction site, trying to pretend I knew what I was doing with a wrench in my hand and a chip on my shoulder.

My paycheck barely covered rent.

My diet was Top Ramen, quesadillas, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and a whole lot of regrets.

And even though I wore steel-toed boots and showed up every day, I felt like I was drifting.

I didn’t know where I was headed.

Was I going to climb the union ranks?

Start a contracting business?

Find my purpose?

Date someone who actually liked me back?

Every direction felt foggy.

Every decision felt like a coin toss.

And the worst part?

I thought I was the only one who felt this way.

Turns out, I wasn’t.

And you’re not either.

Every young man hits that point—the crossroads between being a boy who reacts to life and a man who takes charge of it.

Some drift for years.

Others turn bitter.

A few… figure it out.

This isn’t new.

But it’s worse now.

Because today, you have every opportunity at your fingertips—remote work, online income, gyms on every block, mentors in your DMs, and more information than any king had 100 years ago.

So what’s the real problem?

Men don’t know what they want.
They don’t know why they want it.
And they don’t have a clue how to get it.

Let’s fix that.

Why Most Men Feel Lost, Weak, and Unsure

Let’s get brutally honest.

Most men in their 20s and 30s aren’t lazy.

They work hard.

They grind.

They've tried the podcasts, books, and cold showers.

But they’re still stuck.

Why?

Because effort without direction is wasted motion.

It’s like running on a treadmill—sweaty, tired, and still in the same damn place.

Men don’t need more motivation.
Men need clarity.

Without it, they:

• Chase goals that aren’t even theirs
• Quit early because they don’t have a why
• Compare themselves to others who seem “ahead”
• Feel like a fraud, even when they’re trying hard

This is deeper than productivity.

This is identity.

Most don’t know who they are yet.
And that’s not their fault.

But it is their responsibility.

I’ve Been There

I’ve worked with men who had six-figure jobs but hated waking up.

I’ve trained with martial artists who could break bricks but couldn’t break bad habits.

I’ve stood shoulder to shoulder with tough men on billion-dollar jobs who crumbled the minute life punched them in the gut.

I’ve been the scared kid, the angry young man, and the lost soul pretending to have it all together.

But I did the work.

I faced myself.

I built a life I’m proud of—freedom, peace, purpose.

I’ve been married for over 24 years, traveled the world, retired early, and spend my days doing what I love with people I respect.

Not because I’m special.

But because I finally answered the 3 questions every man must ask:

• What do I want?
• Why do I want it?
• How will I get it?

The Warrior's Way 3-Step Path

Let me lay it out simple.

Here's your path to clarity and direction.

Step 1: Face Reality

This is where it starts.

No filters.

No delusions.

No more pretending.

• Where are you right now?
• What’s not working?
• What pain are you ignoring?

Until you face the truth, you’ll live a lie.

That’s why I teach men to journal like warriors—to track their life weekly with 3 questions:

• Where am I?
• How did I get here?
• Where do I want to go?

This clears the fog.

Step 2: Forge Discipline

Now it’s time to move.

Slowly.

Repetitively.

Like a white belt learning basics.

• Build habits that matter: training, writing, eating well, sleeping right
• Cut distractions: porn, cheap dopamine, pointless scrolling
• Show up daily. Stack reps. Stack wins.

Your life changes when your rituals change.

Step 3: Find Purpose

Once the fog clears and your muscles remember the grind, you’ll feel something shift.

You’ll start to hear that voice inside again.

The one that says:

That’s your mission.

And guess what?

It may change.

That’s okay.

Because when your mind, heart, and gut are aligned—you’ll pivot with power, not panic.

It’s Time to Choose Your Path

Here’s your next step:

📓 Grab your journal.
✍️ Write down these three questions:

1. What do I want?
2. Why do I want it?
3. How am I going to get it?

Then answer them honestly.

Don’t bullshit yourself.

Don’t write what you think sounds good.

Write the real answers—the ones you’re afraid to say out loud.

Next:
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Whether you start small or go all in, just start.

Your life depends on it.

The Price of Staying Lost

If you don’t do this now—then when?

Let me paint the picture:

• You’ll keep working jobs you hate
• You’ll stay in relationships that drain you
• You’ll scroll past men who used to be just like you—but now they’re building lives of freedom, purpose, and power
• You’ll become the man who says “I could’ve been…”

You’ll die with your potential intact.

And that’s the worst kind of death.

The longer you wait, the deeper the hole gets.

No one is coming to save you.
No one’s handing out missions.
No one will pick you for greatness.

You must claim it.

What It Feels Like to Lead Your Life

Now picture this instead:

You wake up every day knowing what to do and why it matters.

• You walk with confidence because your values aren’t borrowed—they’re earned.
• You stop chasing cheap validation and start building lasting respect.
• You become a man other men look to when the storm hits.

And you feel something rare:

Peace.

Not the kind that comes from escaping life.
The kind that comes from mastering it.

A year from now, you could be the same lost man…
Or you could be a warrior on a mission.

Putting It On the Mat:
The Quiet Power of Knowing

Let me take you back one last time.

I was a black belt in Hapkido, running a class full of students.

One of them—a new white belt—asked me, “How do you always seem so sure of yourself?”

I laughed.

Because the truth was, I didn’t always feel sure.

I had made plenty of mistakes.

Gotten taken out (ER and ICU), knocked down, broken up, let go.

But what I had learned was this:

Every time I had those three answers, I moved without doubt.
Even when the outcome was uncertain.
Even when I had to pivot later.

Because clarity creates action.

And action builds confidence.

So here’s your challenge this week:
📓 Journal your 3 answers.
🥋 Show up on the mat—literally or metaphorically.
⚔️ Commit to one bold action.

It could be applying for that job.
Breaking off that dead-end relationship.
Starting that side hustle.
Or just getting back to the gym.

Whatever it is—move.

Don’t wait for the perfect plan.
Don’t wait to be “ready.”
Don’t wait for permission.

The world needs more warriors.
More leaders.
More men who know what they want and own their path forward.

So what do you want?
Why do you want it?
And what are you going to do about it?

Answer that.

Then go put it on the mat.

P.S. To lead your life begins with leading how you invest, spend or waste your time.

Without controlling your time, you will never be able to control your life, forever struggling to keep your head above water as the waves keep crashing over you, slowly drowning you.

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